salam diary,
last thursday was our son's school punye majlis penganugerahan.. Harith was one of the students yang akan dapat hadiah.. hehe.. first time you.. he got number 3 for his class.. alhamdulillah.. at least dapat la jugak kan.. i'm proud of him.. walaupun jumlah markah dia tak la bagus sangat.. but ok la... as long as dia idak le dapat last.. ye tak..
the day went well.. we didn't bring our camera but fortunately, kawan man pun datang jugak tengok anak dia pun dapat hadiah.. and he brought a camera. so apa lagi.. man pun mintak la dia amekkan gambar anak kami.. hehehe... camera canggih tu.. berkenan tapi buat masa ni mmg tak leh la nak beli lagi.. next time..
alhamdulillah.. semua berjalan lancar but we didn't stay till the end.. harith is in standard 2.. jenuh la nak tunggu sampai bebudak darjah 6 amek hadiah.. ramai giler.. dah la setiap standard tu ada lebih 10 kelas.. jenuh.. so kami pun lepas harith dapat hadiah.. terus chow... hehehe..
Monday, November 17, 2008
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Men Have Duties Too!
salam diary,
good article i found from ummusaif.com..
good article i found from ummusaif.com..
Men Have Duties Too!!
Since I reverted to Islam I’ve often done tons of research to know how to become the best wife I possibly can Inshaállah. I’ve noticed it’s very easy to find compiled lists of what a wife should and shouldn’t do but also noticed how hard it is to find that list for brothers. Why does everyone concentrate on the wife? Wife must obey the husband, wife should look pretty for husband, wife must keep a clean home, blah blah blah the list goes on. I’m not saying that the list isn’t in any way wrong because I try my best to practice those duties as a wife but I think “some” brothers also should remember they have duties more than just bringing in the money. So as to a few requests I’ve gotten from sisters here is a list I was able to compile from two articles written by scholars.
“Among His signs is the fact that he has created spouses from among yourselves, so that you may find tranquillity with them; and he has put love and mercy between you. In that are signs for people who reflect.” [Qur'an 30:21]
“They (wives) are garments for you, while you are garments for them.”[Qur'an 2:187]
“From among the believers are those who have the kindest disposition and are the kindest to their families- such are those who show the most perfect faith. “The best among them are those who are kindest to their wives.” [Bukhari and Muslim]
1. The first and worthiest condition of marriage to be fulfilled by the husband is to “keep the promise or promises he made to the wife at the time he married her.
This is an order of the Prophet (saaws) according to the hadith: “ahaqqu al-shuruti an tufu bihi ma astahlaltum bihi min al-furuj”2. Maintenance and protection, responsible for the welfare of the wife as prescribed in the Qu’ran.
“Men shall take full care of women with the bounties which Allah has bestowed more abundantly on the former than on the latter, and with what they may spend out of their possessions….”. [Qur'an 4:34]Husband is financially responsible for the feeding, clothing and shelter of the wife and children. The wife has no obligation to financially contribute to the household unless she has the means and wishes to do so. Treat her generously,The Prophet (saaws) said that the best gift or charity (sadaqa) is that spent on one’s wife.
3. Spend time with her, give her time for marital relations. Husbands don’t stay at home full time and shouldn’t expect the wife too either. Take her places that are good for your family and let her enjoy time off from her duties also. Give her a break!
“…….There is no amusement which is praiseworthy except three, namely training a horse, sporting with one’s wife and shooting arrows with a bow.” [Abu Da'ud, Ibn Majah and Baihaqi]
In illustration of this practice, Aisha (raa) records that on more then one occasion she and the Prophet (saws) ran races and sometimes she won and sometimes he won. Most men nowadays consider it far beneath their dignity to play any sort of game with their wives, and their marriages are the duller and poorer for it.
4. Don’t order her to do something that is against Islam.
The Prophet (s) said: “No obedience is due to creatures in disobedience of the Creator” (la ta`atan li makhluqin fi ma`siyat al-khaliq).
5. Be patient with your wife!
“Live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.” [Qur'an 4:19]Remember she is human and will make mistakes just as everyone else. No one can be perfect. She will have bad days, support her on those bad days and be patient with her. Don’t dwell on the dislikes, instead focus on the likes!
6. Respect your wife and pay attention to her needs the way you would like her to respect you and your needs.
7. Be faithful in your marriage. Show your wife that you are obeying Allah (swt) at all times.
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and to be mindful of their chastity: verily this will be most conductive to their purity (and) verily Allah is aware of all that they do.” [Qur'an 24:30]
“From among the believers are those who have the kindest disposition and are the kindest to their families- such are those who show the most perfect faith. “The best among them are those who are kindest to their wives.” [Bukhari and Muslim]
8. Help with household chores
Aisha (raa) was asked by Al-Aswad b. Yazid what the Prophet used to do in the house. She replied: “He used to work for his family, that is serve his family, and when prayer time came, he went out for prayer.” [Bukhari]Remember that it is not a wife’s duty to clean or cook. It is the husband’s responsibility to provide servants to do these things. If a wife decides to clean and cook then this is a gift to her husband, please be thankful to her!
9. Don’t make a fuss about the food your wife cooks for you. She works hard preparing it!!
“Allah’s Messenger never found fault with food. If he liked something, he ate it, and if he disliked it, he just abstained from it.” [Muslim]
10. When she is sick be sympathetic and patient with her as she is with you in times of illness and pains.
Aisha (radiallahu ‘anha) reported that whenever she was sick, the Prophet (saws) would come to her to show his sympathy. Nor, was he ashamed to let it be known that his love for his wife was greater then his love for any other human being. It is recorded in the Hadith collections of Bukhari and Muslim that someone asked the Prophet: “Who among all the people is most beloved by you?” And he said “Aisha”.
11. Never tell secrets of the household or of the husband and wife.
12. Strive to acquire and keep her trust.
13. Protect her honor and do not put her in the position where it could be compromised.
The Prophet (saaws) said that Allah will not ever let him enter Paradise who cares little who shares his wife’s privacy.
14. Exercise patience and forgiveness in times of disagreements and disputes.
15. Avoid excess jealousy.
The Prophet (saaws) said: “Do not be excessively jealous of your wife lest evil be hurled at her on your account” (la tukthir al-gheerata `ala ahlika fa turama bi al-su’i min ajlik) and he said: “Allah is jealous and the believer is jealous; and Allah’s jealousy is that the believer should not go to that which Allah has forbidden for him” (inna Allaha yagharu wa al- mu’minu yagharu wa gheerat Allahi in ya’tiya al-mu’minu ma harrama `alayhi).
16. Do not stay away from your wife or keep her in suspense without her consent.
“Turn not away (from your wife) altogether, so as to leave her hanging. If you come to a friendly understanding and practice self-restraint, then Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Merciful” [4:129].
17. Do not beat your wife.
The Prophet (saaws) indicated that if a man must beat his wife it should be more or less symbolic, with something like a toothbrush.
The Prophet (saaws) himself very much disliked the beating of wives, and never beat any of his own. In Abu Da’ud’s collection of Hadith he is reported by Laqit B. Sabrah to have said:“Admonish your wife, and if there be any good in her she will receive it; and beat not your wife like a slave.”18. Your wife doesn’t have to stay locked up in the home all day.In another Hadith from Ayas b. Abdullah he specifically said:
“Do not beat Allah’s female servants (i.e women)” [Abu Da'ud, Ibn Majah]
“Do not strike your wife in the face.”
The following Hadith is narrated by Aisha (raa):
“Umar once criticised the Prophet’s wife Saudah for going out, saying he had recognised her in the street. So she appealed to the Prophet (saws) for support and he supported her saying: “Women have the right to go out for their needs.” [Bukhari]
Similarly the Prophet (saws) allowed his wives and other women to go out to the Mosques for their prayers. He also advised other men:
19. Educate your wife in terms of Islam and stop her from going against Islam.“Do not prevent the female servants of Allah (i.e Mosques)” [Muslim]
“O you who have attained to faith! Ward off from yourselves and your families that fire (of the hereafter) whose fuel is Human beings and stones.” [Qur'an 66:6]
In this respect a husband has a duty to ensure that his wife is fully educated as a Muslim either by teaching her himself or by arranging for her Islamic education by other means.
Islam has given the man authority as the head of the family, and he is expected to abide by the Qur’an and Sunnah and endeavour to ensure that his family do not violate Islamic norms of behavior.
20. Care for your wife’s sexual needs. Believe it or not this is an obligation!
The Prophet (saaws) warned against rushing to gratify one’s pleasure and forgetting that of one’s wife. He also disliked that the husband should quickly withdraw from his wife afterwards, as it is a strain upon the wife. If she asks for intercourse, he should not refuse.
Inshaállah married brothers and sisters will strive to remember their duties in their marriage. When something goes wrong in a home it not only effects the household but it ripples out into the community and spreads.
Contributed by Sister Shoruoq
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Forgering?
salam diary,
sedihnye ari nih.. got to know.. that someone yg i kenal from YM rupanya bengang with me..
patut la all this while bile tanya dia macam jawab tanak jawab je.. rupanya dia marah ngan aku..
mmg aku banyak tanya dia pasal webdesigning ni especially using joomla.. and dia sendiri cakap dia mmg sokong orang buat bisnes ni.. and work hard for it.. thats what i'm doing.. but then.. theres something yg aku buat dia tak suka.. which is i took his sample/content from his website and put it on my website.. ok.. i admit i did that.. tapi tak ikut 100%.. aku remove mana2 part yang tak related with me.. bukannye aku tiru sebijik2 dari web dia and letak kat my web.. argghh sedihnya...
this is what he wrote kat YM yang buat aku terhidu rupanya dia ni marah ngan aku..
"awak ni dh jadi competitor sy.... kena lah ada marketing strategy sendiri"
dia jawab macam ni sebab aku tanya dia on the price yang dia akan caj if ada company nak buat website ngan dia... aku just nak compare rate dia.. sebab aku mmg tak de pengalaman lagi on how much people charge to do the website using CMS Joomla nih... that is why aku tanya dia...
tah la ye.. all this while i was like mmg nak berkawan ngan dia and to know or get more knowledge on the web biz.. tapi cenggini lak jadiknya..
well.. i've learnt my lesson.. and thank you.. dia bagitau.. aku tak marah ngan dia.. infact i blame myself for not thinking first before developing my website and also my taking for granted on people yg dah bagi ilmu pada aku..
thanks again.. for your help...
sedihnye ari nih.. got to know.. that someone yg i kenal from YM rupanya bengang with me..
patut la all this while bile tanya dia macam jawab tanak jawab je.. rupanya dia marah ngan aku..
mmg aku banyak tanya dia pasal webdesigning ni especially using joomla.. and dia sendiri cakap dia mmg sokong orang buat bisnes ni.. and work hard for it.. thats what i'm doing.. but then.. theres something yg aku buat dia tak suka.. which is i took his sample/content from his website and put it on my website.. ok.. i admit i did that.. tapi tak ikut 100%.. aku remove mana2 part yang tak related with me.. bukannye aku tiru sebijik2 dari web dia and letak kat my web.. argghh sedihnya...
this is what he wrote kat YM yang buat aku terhidu rupanya dia ni marah ngan aku..
"awak ni dh jadi competitor sy.... kena lah ada marketing strategy sendiri"
dia jawab macam ni sebab aku tanya dia on the price yang dia akan caj if ada company nak buat website ngan dia... aku just nak compare rate dia.. sebab aku mmg tak de pengalaman lagi on how much people charge to do the website using CMS Joomla nih... that is why aku tanya dia...
tah la ye.. all this while i was like mmg nak berkawan ngan dia and to know or get more knowledge on the web biz.. tapi cenggini lak jadiknya..
well.. i've learnt my lesson.. and thank you.. dia bagitau.. aku tak marah ngan dia.. infact i blame myself for not thinking first before developing my website and also my taking for granted on people yg dah bagi ilmu pada aku..
thanks again.. for your help...
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
80/20 rule
salam diary,
an article i received in my inbox.. a very good one to read..
Subject: A very good one 80/20 rule..
A very valuable lesson to learn...
Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?' In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship. But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had. Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow,
this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not'
Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did. Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..' Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that you already have! That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers. Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have. But I'm not just talking about marriage.
I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'
I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?
The main message???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are,
you are first class!
Have a pleasant day
an article i received in my inbox.. a very good one to read..
Subject: A very good one 80/20 rule..
A very valuable lesson to learn...
Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?' In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship. But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had. Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow,
this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not'
Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did. Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..' Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that you already have! That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers. Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have. But I'm not just talking about marriage.
I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'
I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?
The main message???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are,
you are first class!
Have a pleasant day
Poligami?
salam diary,
familiar with the topic? this is the topic that is being discuss currently at our portal.. hmm..
bercakap/tulis pasal poligami ni, dah macam2 kita baca, lihat dan sebagainya.. tak penah abis.. kat tiwi, kat suratkhabar mmg banyak kisah2 suka dan duka.. ada yang ok ada yang tak ok..
tapi pada hakikatnya.. poligami adalah suatu perbuatan(err.. perkara?) yg dibenarkan dalam islam.. dan sure kengkawan tau ayat yang famous tu.. aku tak leh nak recall which surah or verses lam quran yang suh kite berkahwin 4 tapi if tak buleh kawin 3, if tak leh gak kawin 2.. dan adalah lebih baik 1 aje.. (if salah tolong betulkan)..
anak2 kene pikir jugak.. adakah kite ni dah cukup bagus dalam mendidik anak2 sampai nak beristeri lebih dari 1? anak2 amanah yang amat besar.. bukan pada si ibu sahaja.... tapi pada si bapa juga..(bab ni kene bukak thread lain plak.. banyak yg boleh dikongsikan bab mendidik anak2.) . Isteri pun nak kene didik jugak.. kalau sorang pun tak terdidik menjadi isteri yg solehah.. masih nak berangan isteri sorang lagi? dan aku dapati.. selalunya.. isteri pertama ni perwatakan dia agak bertentangan ngan isteri kedua.. kalau isteri pertama jenis pendiam.. isteri kedua ni selalunya jenis banyak cakap.. isteri pertama jenis belajar pun lebih kurang.. yg kedua ni jenis educated.. vice versa..
aku sokong je ape yang terbaik.. apetah lagi jika ia mmg dibenarkan.. tapi jgn la.. tang poligami nak ikut sunnah.. tapi hat yang lain tak pulak nak ikut bebetul... tu yang tak syok tu... but easy to say than done! ni aku la nih.. cakap macam ok je.. tapi bile kene bebetul tak tau la macam mana.. anyway.. ape yang aku nak nyatakan disini...
apeee yang penting! kerjaaasama (err.. baca lam gaya kartun wonder pets!.. bm version.. heheheh).. bak kata ustaz hasrizal(saifulislam.com).. yang penting adalah komunikasi.. penting untuk kite berkomunikasi antara suami isteri, antara anak2.. setiap masalah boleh diselesaikan.. yang penting.. COMMUNICATE..
sirah nabi pun ada menceritakan.. masa nabi berpoligami.. banyak juga kejadian yang melibatkan pergaduhan/perselisihan antara isteri2 nabi.. jadik kite ni.. sure ada perkara2 yang berlaku yg tidak memuaskan hati beberapa pihak..
prevention is better than cure.. sama macam isu ni.. sebelum suami nak meminta.. or ada tanda2 nak ke arah tu.. kite buatlah sesuatu.. seperti: communicate la.. tanya dia apa yang tak kena, apa yang dia tak puas hati.. dan sebagainya.. pastu.. dalam solat, jgn lupa doakan yang terbaik.. doakan agar perhubungan suami isteri baik.. pastu masa masak.. baca doa2 yang baik yg banyak ustazah ada ajar.. supaya suami sayang kat kite.. jgn lak bagi ubat penunduk pulak..
TAPI.. kalau Allah dah takdirkan, kite akan bermadu.. (kalau boleh elakkan bercerai.. walaupun dibenarkan tapi Allah amat membencinya).. aku sarankan..ceewaahh.. macam pakar motivasi plak.. buat istiharah,solat sunat bebanyak.. segala solat sunat kalau boleh buat.. buatlah.. bila solat, mintak doa bebanyak.. mintak kat Allah jika ini adalah lebih baik untuk diri kita.. maka perbaikilah amalan kite dan ampunkan la dosa kita... (teringat kat lam cite ayat2 cinta tu.. part yg si Fahri ni kat lam penjara... orang yg sepenjara ngan dia cakap kat dia.. nape dia tak doa kat Allah macam nabi yusof.. kalau dia akan lebih dekat ngan Allah (lebih menginsafi diri, lebih bertaubat..basically lebih baik la..) bila dalam penjara, maka biarlah dia dipenjara..
so, sama macam ni jugak la.. if bermadu itu lebih baik.. maka biarlah bermadu.. dan bila dah bermadu ni.. buatlah perkara yang mmg kite dah buat sebagai isteri sebelum ni.. jgn pulak nak balas dendam.. anak2 kite kene jaga dengan penuh kasih sayang...
again, easy to say than done! ni aku peringat kat diri aku n kengkawan la...
apa yang baik tu dari Allah jua...
familiar with the topic? this is the topic that is being discuss currently at our portal.. hmm..
bercakap/tulis pasal poligami ni, dah macam2 kita baca, lihat dan sebagainya.. tak penah abis.. kat tiwi, kat suratkhabar mmg banyak kisah2 suka dan duka.. ada yang ok ada yang tak ok..
tapi pada hakikatnya.. poligami adalah suatu perbuatan(err.. perkara?) yg dibenarkan dalam islam.. dan sure kengkawan tau ayat yang famous tu.. aku tak leh nak recall which surah or verses lam quran yang suh kite berkahwin 4 tapi if tak buleh kawin 3, if tak leh gak kawin 2.. dan adalah lebih baik 1 aje.. (if salah tolong betulkan)..
anak2 kene pikir jugak.. adakah kite ni dah cukup bagus dalam mendidik anak2 sampai nak beristeri lebih dari 1? anak2 amanah yang amat besar.. bukan pada si ibu sahaja.... tapi pada si bapa juga..(bab ni kene bukak thread lain plak.. banyak yg boleh dikongsikan bab mendidik anak2.) . Isteri pun nak kene didik jugak.. kalau sorang pun tak terdidik menjadi isteri yg solehah.. masih nak berangan isteri sorang lagi? dan aku dapati.. selalunya.. isteri pertama ni perwatakan dia agak bertentangan ngan isteri kedua.. kalau isteri pertama jenis pendiam.. isteri kedua ni selalunya jenis banyak cakap.. isteri pertama jenis belajar pun lebih kurang.. yg kedua ni jenis educated.. vice versa..
aku sokong je ape yang terbaik.. apetah lagi jika ia mmg dibenarkan.. tapi jgn la.. tang poligami nak ikut sunnah.. tapi hat yang lain tak pulak nak ikut bebetul... tu yang tak syok tu... but easy to say than done! ni aku la nih.. cakap macam ok je.. tapi bile kene bebetul tak tau la macam mana.. anyway.. ape yang aku nak nyatakan disini...
apeee yang penting! kerjaaasama (err.. baca lam gaya kartun wonder pets!.. bm version.. heheheh).. bak kata ustaz hasrizal(saifulislam.com).. yang penting adalah komunikasi.. penting untuk kite berkomunikasi antara suami isteri, antara anak2.. setiap masalah boleh diselesaikan.. yang penting.. COMMUNICATE..
sirah nabi pun ada menceritakan.. masa nabi berpoligami.. banyak juga kejadian yang melibatkan pergaduhan/perselisihan antara isteri2 nabi.. jadik kite ni.. sure ada perkara2 yang berlaku yg tidak memuaskan hati beberapa pihak..
prevention is better than cure.. sama macam isu ni.. sebelum suami nak meminta.. or ada tanda2 nak ke arah tu.. kite buatlah sesuatu.. seperti: communicate la.. tanya dia apa yang tak kena, apa yang dia tak puas hati.. dan sebagainya.. pastu.. dalam solat, jgn lupa doakan yang terbaik.. doakan agar perhubungan suami isteri baik.. pastu masa masak.. baca doa2 yang baik yg banyak ustazah ada ajar.. supaya suami sayang kat kite.. jgn lak bagi ubat penunduk pulak..
TAPI.. kalau Allah dah takdirkan, kite akan bermadu.. (kalau boleh elakkan bercerai.. walaupun dibenarkan tapi Allah amat membencinya).. aku sarankan..ceewaahh.. macam pakar motivasi plak.. buat istiharah,solat sunat bebanyak.. segala solat sunat kalau boleh buat.. buatlah.. bila solat, mintak doa bebanyak.. mintak kat Allah jika ini adalah lebih baik untuk diri kita.. maka perbaikilah amalan kite dan ampunkan la dosa kita... (teringat kat lam cite ayat2 cinta tu.. part yg si Fahri ni kat lam penjara... orang yg sepenjara ngan dia cakap kat dia.. nape dia tak doa kat Allah macam nabi yusof.. kalau dia akan lebih dekat ngan Allah (lebih menginsafi diri, lebih bertaubat..basically lebih baik la..) bila dalam penjara, maka biarlah dia dipenjara..
so, sama macam ni jugak la.. if bermadu itu lebih baik.. maka biarlah bermadu.. dan bila dah bermadu ni.. buatlah perkara yang mmg kite dah buat sebagai isteri sebelum ni.. jgn pulak nak balas dendam.. anak2 kite kene jaga dengan penuh kasih sayang...
again, easy to say than done! ni aku peringat kat diri aku n kengkawan la...
apa yang baik tu dari Allah jua...
Monday, November 10, 2008
Ebay n PayPal
salam diary,
i have to find a time to check my ebay and pay pal account.. i have to do something and start something.. i have a collections of stamps that i would like to sell at ebay but i don't know how.. i need money to pay my debt.. i really need to work on this.. dear Allah, please give me strength to work hard n enrich my knowledge in islam and earn more money to pay my debt.. that is all i wanted to do..
i have to find a time to check my ebay and pay pal account.. i have to do something and start something.. i have a collections of stamps that i would like to sell at ebay but i don't know how.. i need money to pay my debt.. i really need to work on this.. dear Allah, please give me strength to work hard n enrich my knowledge in islam and earn more money to pay my debt.. that is all i wanted to do..
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Ikan Kerapu Tiga Rasa
salam diary,
today i managed to cook ikan tigarasa using mek pah's recipe.. heheh.. ok la the rasa.. sedap juga to me..
ni style campak2 je.. ikut sedap sendiri..
ikan sekor
bawang besar, serai, halia, bawang putih, sos tiram, air asam limau, cili api (semua ni tumbuk sket n campurkan ngan ikan) pastu tambah carrot, tomato..
today i managed to cook ikan tigarasa using mek pah's recipe.. heheh.. ok la the rasa.. sedap juga to me..
ni style campak2 je.. ikut sedap sendiri..
ikan sekor
bawang besar, serai, halia, bawang putih, sos tiram, air asam limau, cili api (semua ni tumbuk sket n campurkan ngan ikan) pastu tambah carrot, tomato..
Seminar Parenting (Membentuk Khalifah masa depan)
salam diary,
we (my husband and I) went for a parenting seminar last saturday.. a very enlightening event.. located at Bilik Titanium, Dewan Sirim, Shah Alam.. started at 3.00pm and ended at about 6.00pm. it was a special day coz we went there without the children.. yeah.. bagi busu depa jaga sat.. petang ja.. busu depa bawak diorang pi umah kawan ayah su..celebrating their children's birthday cum open house... dengarnya ada badut buat magic show.. i know my children looovveee badut and the balloons...
as for us.. mmg mengujakan la.. dah lama tak dating.. so ni peluang nih.. after the seminar.. we went to IKEA.. hehe.. mula ingat nak jenjalan je.. so sambil nunggu man pi solat maghrib.. aku round la sampai bawah.. last2 beli gak tutup kuali rega rm15.. hehehe.. pastu kami beli karipap kegilaan ramai sedozen untuk dibawak balik.. sebab dila n man akan datang umah kami terus untuk antar bebudak tu balik... so ni kire untuk jamu depa la nih sebab dah tolong jagakan anak2.. hehehe..
talking about the seminar.. mmg best.. to me mmg berbaloi la... penceramah is ustaz hasrizal.. the owner of blog saifulislam.com.. mmg interesting.. banyak ilmu yg dapat diperolehi dari ceramah yg disampaikan..
antara perkara yang aku ingat ialah, we have to teach our children what is the objective in life.. why are we send to earth? we as parents.. ade beberapa perkara yang perlu kite sediakan untuk nafkah anak2 iaitu, keperluan fizikal (makan, minum, tempat tinggal), akal (ilmu, pelajaran), emosi (kasih sayang, perhatian), hati (iman, kenal Allah, tahu tujuan Hidup)..
errr.. ada banyak lagi.. tapi kene tengok nota la... hehehe..
at the end of the session.. i got to know that pn jamilah samian (the writer for "cool mom, superdad" book) was one of the participants... after the session is over, i went to her and got to salam with her.. i've told her that i have read her books.. and i've asked her what can i do because i want to do the changes whilst my children has already grown up (not a baby anymore)... and she told me that "it is not too late to make changes".. so i salam again with her and off we go.. well.. it is never too late to do any changes... *wink*
we (my husband and I) went for a parenting seminar last saturday.. a very enlightening event.. located at Bilik Titanium, Dewan Sirim, Shah Alam.. started at 3.00pm and ended at about 6.00pm. it was a special day coz we went there without the children.. yeah.. bagi busu depa jaga sat.. petang ja.. busu depa bawak diorang pi umah kawan ayah su..celebrating their children's birthday cum open house... dengarnya ada badut buat magic show.. i know my children looovveee badut and the balloons...
as for us.. mmg mengujakan la.. dah lama tak dating.. so ni peluang nih.. after the seminar.. we went to IKEA.. hehe.. mula ingat nak jenjalan je.. so sambil nunggu man pi solat maghrib.. aku round la sampai bawah.. last2 beli gak tutup kuali rega rm15.. hehehe.. pastu kami beli karipap kegilaan ramai sedozen untuk dibawak balik.. sebab dila n man akan datang umah kami terus untuk antar bebudak tu balik... so ni kire untuk jamu depa la nih sebab dah tolong jagakan anak2.. hehehe..
talking about the seminar.. mmg best.. to me mmg berbaloi la... penceramah is ustaz hasrizal.. the owner of blog saifulislam.com.. mmg interesting.. banyak ilmu yg dapat diperolehi dari ceramah yg disampaikan..
antara perkara yang aku ingat ialah, we have to teach our children what is the objective in life.. why are we send to earth? we as parents.. ade beberapa perkara yang perlu kite sediakan untuk nafkah anak2 iaitu, keperluan fizikal (makan, minum, tempat tinggal), akal (ilmu, pelajaran), emosi (kasih sayang, perhatian), hati (iman, kenal Allah, tahu tujuan Hidup)..
errr.. ada banyak lagi.. tapi kene tengok nota la... hehehe..
at the end of the session.. i got to know that pn jamilah samian (the writer for "cool mom, superdad" book) was one of the participants... after the session is over, i went to her and got to salam with her.. i've told her that i have read her books.. and i've asked her what can i do because i want to do the changes whilst my children has already grown up (not a baby anymore)... and she told me that "it is not too late to make changes".. so i salam again with her and off we go.. well.. it is never too late to do any changes... *wink*
Friday, November 7, 2008
Puding Jagung
salam diary,
my first ever puding jagung.. one of my favourite pudding.. at last i got the recipe and tried it successfully... hehehe.. got the recipe from my neighbour...
ingredients:
300gm tepung kastard
1 tin jagung creamer
5 tin santan
1 1/2 cawan gula
1 sudu kecik garam
add all the above and stir on a very low heat.. stir sampai likat.. and then put it in a loyang.. cool it and then serve...
while cooking...
when its ready... yummy...
this time, cannot wait for my gorgeous.. coz he's having dinner at Mandarin Hotel in KL.. for the 50th Enterprise Dinner or something like that.. so.. will eat and taste it first..
my first ever puding jagung.. one of my favourite pudding.. at last i got the recipe and tried it successfully... hehehe.. got the recipe from my neighbour...
ingredients:
300gm tepung kastard
1 tin jagung creamer
5 tin santan
1 1/2 cawan gula
1 sudu kecik garam
add all the above and stir on a very low heat.. stir sampai likat.. and then put it in a loyang.. cool it and then serve...
while cooking...
when its ready... yummy...
this time, cannot wait for my gorgeous.. coz he's having dinner at Mandarin Hotel in KL.. for the 50th Enterprise Dinner or something like that.. so.. will eat and taste it first..
mencari kerja??
salam diary,
am i looking for a job? hmm.. sometimes i feel that i cannot go to work anymore coz i don't know what i can do.. am i going to do network? training? i think i don't have that capability anymore? so should i look for a clerical work? admin work which is not related to IT.. which does not need me to do technical thingy? hmmm what is exactly the job that i'm looking for and i can do?
i've just submitted a form from the MQA website.. online application.. for a post Pegawai Teknologi Maklumat.. hopefully will get a news from them... the closing date will be 11th november.. luckily i know about it today.. thanks to a friend of mine who gave me the info... alhamdulillah...
so.. hoping for the better.. kalau ada rezeki.. ada la tu kan...
am i looking for a job? hmm.. sometimes i feel that i cannot go to work anymore coz i don't know what i can do.. am i going to do network? training? i think i don't have that capability anymore? so should i look for a clerical work? admin work which is not related to IT.. which does not need me to do technical thingy? hmmm what is exactly the job that i'm looking for and i can do?
i've just submitted a form from the MQA website.. online application.. for a post Pegawai Teknologi Maklumat.. hopefully will get a news from them... the closing date will be 11th november.. luckily i know about it today.. thanks to a friend of mine who gave me the info... alhamdulillah...
so.. hoping for the better.. kalau ada rezeki.. ada la tu kan...
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Gambar terkini kami
salam diary,
ni baru rajin nak mengupload gambar anak2..
and this is the latest one...
hmmm awat nampak kelakar plak rambut nabihah.. selalunye tak cam tu.. yang si abglong plak nampak gigi kat depan tu tak de.. hmmm..
Gambar my beloved and gorgeous man..
yang ni gambar lama la...
ni baru rajin nak mengupload gambar anak2..
and this is the latest one...
hmmm awat nampak kelakar plak rambut nabihah.. selalunye tak cam tu.. yang si abglong plak nampak gigi kat depan tu tak de.. hmmm..
Gambar my beloved and gorgeous man..
yang ni gambar lama la...
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Daging Masak Merah
salam diary,
ari ni aku nak cuba masak menu yg lain sket.. aku carik kat internet.. since ada daging kat lam peti ais.. so aku pun surf la resepi daging masak merah.. wallahhh.. ni la hasilnya...
heehhe... lom rasa lagi nih.. nak tunggu my gorjes balik and nak makan sama2.. hehehe...
sure dia terkojut dgn my performance ari nih..
ni resepinya..
daging di rebus dan dihiris..
cili kering yg dah dimesin.., bawang putih dititik, bawang besar dihiris, sos tomato, kicap cair, minyak..
cara2:
panaskan minyak, tumiskan bawang putih. dah naik bau, masukkan cili kering, tumis sampai cili garing or pecah minyak... masukkan sos tomato (this time saya masukkan cili sos gak sebab sos tomato tak de..), masukkan daging.. then masukkan kicap cair.. if kering sangat.. tambah air sket.. masukkan gula sket.. if suka la.. aku if masak sambal ni mmg letak sket gula.. tak banyak..
pastu last sekali masukkan bawang besar.. gaul2 kejap.. n leh angkat...
ni resepi asal:
Bahan-Bahan:
300 gm daging lembu
2 biji bawang besar (dihiris)
3 ulas bawang putih (dititik)
125 gm sos tomato
4 sudu besar cili kering (dikisar) Sedikit kicap cair
Garam secukup rasa
Sedikit air
Minyak untuk menumis
Cara:
Rebus daging dengan ditambah sedikit pewarna merah sehingga empuk. Potong daging lebih kurang sebesar 5 cm. Panasakan minyak & tumis bawang putih sehingga naik baunya. Masukkan cili kering. Tumis sehingga pecah minyak. Masukkan sos tomato & daging yang telah dipotong tadi bersama sedikit air. Tambahkan sedikit garam & kicap cair. Masak sehingga kuah agak kering barulah dimasukkan pula hirisan bawang besar. Kacau seketika & angkat.
sekian..
dah makan dah.. hehe.. bagi aku sedap la..
tanya man.. dia kata " ok la.. sedap... " hehe cam tak sedap je.. tapi bertambah jugak sepinggan lagi Man.. sedap la kot... heheheh
ari ni aku nak cuba masak menu yg lain sket.. aku carik kat internet.. since ada daging kat lam peti ais.. so aku pun surf la resepi daging masak merah.. wallahhh.. ni la hasilnya...
heehhe... lom rasa lagi nih.. nak tunggu my gorjes balik and nak makan sama2.. hehehe...
sure dia terkojut dgn my performance ari nih..
ni resepinya..
daging di rebus dan dihiris..
cili kering yg dah dimesin.., bawang putih dititik, bawang besar dihiris, sos tomato, kicap cair, minyak..
cara2:
panaskan minyak, tumiskan bawang putih. dah naik bau, masukkan cili kering, tumis sampai cili garing or pecah minyak... masukkan sos tomato (this time saya masukkan cili sos gak sebab sos tomato tak de..), masukkan daging.. then masukkan kicap cair.. if kering sangat.. tambah air sket.. masukkan gula sket.. if suka la.. aku if masak sambal ni mmg letak sket gula.. tak banyak..
pastu last sekali masukkan bawang besar.. gaul2 kejap.. n leh angkat...
ni resepi asal:
Bahan-Bahan:
300 gm daging lembu
2 biji bawang besar (dihiris)
3 ulas bawang putih (dititik)
125 gm sos tomato
4 sudu besar cili kering (dikisar) Sedikit kicap cair
Garam secukup rasa
Sedikit air
Minyak untuk menumis
Cara:
Rebus daging dengan ditambah sedikit pewarna merah sehingga empuk. Potong daging lebih kurang sebesar 5 cm. Panasakan minyak & tumis bawang putih sehingga naik baunya. Masukkan cili kering. Tumis sehingga pecah minyak. Masukkan sos tomato & daging yang telah dipotong tadi bersama sedikit air. Tambahkan sedikit garam & kicap cair. Masak sehingga kuah agak kering barulah dimasukkan pula hirisan bawang besar. Kacau seketika & angkat.
sekian..
dah makan dah.. hehe.. bagi aku sedap la..
tanya man.. dia kata " ok la.. sedap... " hehe cam tak sedap je.. tapi bertambah jugak sepinggan lagi Man.. sedap la kot... heheheh
apa nak jadi?
salam diary,
aku ni selalu je terpk sendiri.. ape la nak jadik ngan aku ni.. ye la kan.. dah la tak keje.. simpanan pun tak de.. duit insurans anak pun tak bayar2 dah lebih 10 bulan.. just imagine.. if rm100 a month, for 10 months.. brape.. pastukan bukan sorang je.. tapi 4 4 orang tak berbayar.. mana le nak korek duit ni... nak keje.. cam payah je nak dapat a good pay punye keje.. ye la kan.. kite keje biasa2 je.. tak la gah macam orang lain.. so nak mintak banyak.. sure susah nak dapat.. tapi tak tau la kot rezeki... anyway.. sekang ni mmg ada gak la usha2 keje nih.. tapi suspen pun ada... boleh ke keje nih? anak2 nanti macam mana? banyak benda la gak nak kene pikir.. amek maid mungkin tak... kesian kat anak2.. nanti if aku keje.. depa laks susah.. dah setahun aku dok umah.. diorang syok je.. nanti if dah keje balik.. sure depa tercarik2..
aku ni selalu je terpk sendiri.. ape la nak jadik ngan aku ni.. ye la kan.. dah la tak keje.. simpanan pun tak de.. duit insurans anak pun tak bayar2 dah lebih 10 bulan.. just imagine.. if rm100 a month, for 10 months.. brape.. pastukan bukan sorang je.. tapi 4 4 orang tak berbayar.. mana le nak korek duit ni... nak keje.. cam payah je nak dapat a good pay punye keje.. ye la kan.. kite keje biasa2 je.. tak la gah macam orang lain.. so nak mintak banyak.. sure susah nak dapat.. tapi tak tau la kot rezeki... anyway.. sekang ni mmg ada gak la usha2 keje nih.. tapi suspen pun ada... boleh ke keje nih? anak2 nanti macam mana? banyak benda la gak nak kene pikir.. amek maid mungkin tak... kesian kat anak2.. nanti if aku keje.. depa laks susah.. dah setahun aku dok umah.. diorang syok je.. nanti if dah keje balik.. sure depa tercarik2..
Monday, November 3, 2008
Today is Monday!
salam diary,
another monday again.. pepagi lagi dah mengamuk.. heheh.. samping baju melayu anak tah ke mana.. kelam kabut, bas pulak datang.. tu yg geram je...
i'm trying not to be stressful all the time... even my doctor advice not to be stressed as it will make our life more miserable and my health will go down.. my sinus will be bad.. currently i'm using nasal spray to control my sinus.. i think it is not as bad as i thought it was.. alhamdulillah... dah gi x-ray last saturday.. since doctor pun tak cakap apa.. so i think tak de yg serius la.. just that i need to continue taking the nasal spray... hopefully i won't get hook with the medicine for a long time.. nampak gaya kene pasang aircond setiap sudut umah so that habuk tak masuk banyak..
so.. my usual routine for the week days.. pepagi kemas umah, mandikan anak2, masak.. continue kerja kat pc nih.. and cam tu la berulang sampai 5 hari seminggu...
nak kene buat jadual nih... really have to do it.. kalau tak gile dibuatnya...
another monday again.. pepagi lagi dah mengamuk.. heheh.. samping baju melayu anak tah ke mana.. kelam kabut, bas pulak datang.. tu yg geram je...
i'm trying not to be stressful all the time... even my doctor advice not to be stressed as it will make our life more miserable and my health will go down.. my sinus will be bad.. currently i'm using nasal spray to control my sinus.. i think it is not as bad as i thought it was.. alhamdulillah... dah gi x-ray last saturday.. since doctor pun tak cakap apa.. so i think tak de yg serius la.. just that i need to continue taking the nasal spray... hopefully i won't get hook with the medicine for a long time.. nampak gaya kene pasang aircond setiap sudut umah so that habuk tak masuk banyak..
so.. my usual routine for the week days.. pepagi kemas umah, mandikan anak2, masak.. continue kerja kat pc nih.. and cam tu la berulang sampai 5 hari seminggu...
nak kene buat jadual nih... really have to do it.. kalau tak gile dibuatnya...
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